Becoming a

Welcome to The Balanced Belles, where I am choosing to share my journey to actually becoming a Balanced Belle, and hopefully help others along the way. 

Now, what exactly is a Balanced Belle and why the hell would you want to be one?

Well, I’ve been striving to find balance in my life for as long as I can remember. That might not be the hardest thing in the world for most people, but when you suffer from an anxiety disorder and depression, it can make that task, among others, a lot more difficult. 

I’ve been a sufferer my entire life, but I truly became a “victim” when I was 15 years old. I’m now 23. 

I am determined to become balanced in all aspects of my life, regardless of the state of my mental health. I want to learn to balance my relationships, my social life, my “normal” job, my side jobs, my home life, my physical health, my mental health, and my finances all while trying to reach my goals and not go insane. Sound familiar?

I think we all strive to be balanced in life. A sense of balance brings peace to your world and nobody can complain about a little peace, right?

Good. We’re on the same page. 

Okay, so now what’s with this Belle thing?

I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase ‘Belle of the ball.’ It’s basically being the princess of the party. I’ve never been to a ball and I have no idea how to get invited to one, but I like to think of life as my own ball. And I realize that I can never be the Belle of my own ball if I’m being controlled, victimized, and inhibited by anxiety and depression. In order to be the Belle of my own ball I have to break free from that dark place. 

I’m here to share my journey to regaining my life back; my sense of self, my sense of worthiness, my confidence, my motivation, my happiness, and most importantly, my freedom! I know I’m not the only person out there who is sitting in this lonely ass boat. That boat may feel lonely just bobbing up and down in the middle of the ocean, but let’s bring those boats closer together and share this journey. I really believe that if you’re willing to put up the miserable, exhausting fight (hey, nobody said it would be easy) that you can make it back to shore. 

Here’s an oar. Come join me. 


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Here’s a little more about me…

Now that you understand my reason for starting my journey and inviting you on it, as well, you should probably know a little more about who the hell I am. 

Well, my name is Harley (the answer to your question is no, so we can move ahead), and I’m 23 years old. I’m from SouthEast Michigan (Go Lions!) and I’ve lived here my entire life, but I’ve moved around locally quite a bit (eight times to be exact and more to come). I have two pomeranians (Bella & Coby), a beagle (Jake), two cats (Sharon & Kelly – after the Osbournes and yes, they really are mother and daughter), and two fish (Callie & Melvin). I also have a really awesome, very patient boyfriend named Will. He’s an anxious girl’s dream. 

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I work a really boring retail job and recently stepped down from my management position to work part-time. When I’m not there I’m working at home as a freelance editor and an author. I self-published my first book in October 2015 and am publishing my second in 2018. The three year gap was due to issues caused by my anxiety and depression. This is one of my biggest motivators for fighting to get myself out of that dark hole. I have books to write! If you want to check out my writing career, you can find me here!

You’ll most likely find me writing, editing, taking really long walks with really loud music, playing with my pups, making my cats cuddle with me, laughing to really funny movies, singing in the car with my boyfriend, losing really badly to him at a game of basketball, working on my blog, and reading books. 

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And a little more about my blog…

Here on The Balanced Belles I blog about my life and my experiences; how anxiety and depression effect my life and how I fight it. I do believe that mental health and physical health go hand in hand so I’m also working on my physical health now, too. I’ll share workouts and healthy recipes to go along with it. I want to share anything and everything that might possibly benefit someone else like me. If there is something that has worked for me, I want to share because it might work for you too! I’m here to show you that you are not alone and even though crawling out of the black hole of anxiety and depression might seem completely impossible, it’s really not. Let me show you.